The Best Way to Treat the Most Common Limiting Belief

One of the most common limiting beliefs is not a global belief about others or the world around us. It has nothing to do with what we think about how the world works or what other people think about us. It’s a belief about ourselves.

It’s an idea that we held in our minds and in our hearts when we were very young. It started out as “I’m not smart enough,” or “I’m not worthy enough,” and eventually evolved into a strong opinion of ourselves that says, “I’m not good enough.”

This belief is one of the most common limiting beliefs. It comes from a lack of self respect and recognition for who we are as human beings. It comes from a lack of appreciation for who we really are and it comes from a lack of understanding of our power to create our lives deliberately.

So how do you get around it?

You get around it by first realizing it has control of your life. Every person everywhere at some point in time has had this limiting belief. Even the people who are real superstars have at one point believed they weren’t good enough.

But instead of acknowledging this belief they decided to combat it with a belief that says, “I’m better than that.” Even this belief has it’s roots dug deep into “I’m not good enough,” and having to prove that they are good enough. You can’t escape it by proving that you don’t have the belief. The belief is still there, you just haven’t acknowledged that it has a grip on you. Denying this belief is not the solution.

So what’s the fix?

There is no fix and there is never anything that needs fixing. There is only tuning and adjustment. You want to think of yourself as a super car like a Ferrari.  You are perfect in every way, but you just haven’t learned how to get yourself out of first gear.   You’ve got six gears, but you just only learned how to ride in first.

Beat the Most Common Limiting Belief

As you adjust and tune your beliefs you learn to ride without pushing.  You’ll find yourself doing less and accomplishing more.  It’s just like riding that Ferrari.  You speed up on the outside once you slow down on the inside.  You’ll start to go with the current instead of against it.

That’s what it’s like when you let got of limiting beliefs.

Here’s an example in my own life.  For the past 6 months I’ve become quite an expert when it comes to blogging and generating traffic and leads online.  I’m not trying to toot my own horn.  On many occasions I’ve had others tell me that I should be teaching and coaching others on how to build their own blogs.  It’s something that I’m good at and that I enjoy.

But regardless of how much coaxing and convincing from others, I refused to do it.  I refused to get into a new market as a Blog Marketing Coaching.


Because I had the limiting belief, “I’m not good enough.”   To be even more accurate, I thought, “I’m not good enough yet,” which is very similar.

Then came the transition in the last month.  It was a Sunday and I was thinking about a new blog post for earlier in the week.  Then it hit me, “why don’t I just tell my readers that I’ll be offering to help them build their blog as a blog coach?”

It seemed like a great idea and I followed through with it.  The belief, “I’m not good enough yet,” had let go of it’s clutches.  The way I overcome this belief was by appreciating what I had already accomplished.  Not only with myself, but with others as well.

I thought about all the times that I helped someone with their blog and how they got results.  I felt proud of those moments and I really started to grasp an appreciation for my ability to teach others to do what I had learned how to do.  It was after consistently seeing the beauty and appreciation for what I was helping others accomplish that I started to “get it”.  I started to see my value.  I started to recognize what I was doing and then on that Sunday, “I felt good enough.”

Physically, nothing had changed.  But internally I had a new self-respect for what I was helping others accomplish.  I had defeated that self-limiting belief.  What a great place to be.


  • Sarah Bartrum

    Reply Reply February 27, 2010

    I totally agree with that key most limiting belief. You might dress it up in other words like “I’m not qualified” or “I’m not experienced enough” or “I’m not an expert.” But it all boils down to the same thing – we think we’re not good enough. This is a hard belief to change, you need to eat away at it day by day. Good blog Steve.

  • Steve

    Reply Reply February 27, 2010

    Thanks Sarah – you know it’s such a poisonous belief that gets hidden under those blankets of conversation we have with ourselves.

    What some people do is jump the gun, expecting to create new beliefs as the first step when they haven’t even become aware of those destructive conversations they’ve been having with themselves in the first place – that’s where it all starts.

  • anne

    Reply Reply March 16, 2010

    I love the way you write. It’s so obvious isn’t it. how come intelligent, talented human beings find themselves in this not good enough state? I’m a parent and have constantly tried to instill good internal scripts yet many of the adults I coach have a feel of failure rather than a desire to test stuff out and learn. Same thing potentially with different frames.

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